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Forgive as God Forgives

Our nature dictates that we ought to hold a grudge against anyone who would slight us. Should we find ourselves angry with someone, our nature would want us to take it further. It is within us not to want to forgive.

But God showed us what forgiveness really is. In everything we do, no matter how awful, no matter how horrible, no matter how ugly it is, God will forgive us, if we wholeheartedly repent of our sins. It is within His nature to want to forgive.

No greater sacrifice had anyone made than that made by Jesus when He gave His life on the cross for us sinners:

“By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.” (1 John 3:16)

How much more would His sacrifice mean to us if we had seen with our own eyes Jesus bound, whipped, tortured and nailed to the cross, if we knew that cross was meant for us?

In the same way, we have to let go of grudges, slights and anger. Instead, we have to love those who cause us hurt. Bless those who want us harm. Forgive those who wish to do us evil. And even if others did not mean to offend us in any way, but in our old nature, we might want to do them evil, we must allow the Holy Spirit to lead us to change. Our nature will then be as God’s nature; and through this, we will have the power to forgive as God forgives.

Author:

Jack Flacco is an author and the founder of Looking to God Ministries, an organization dedicated to spreading the Word of God through outreach programs, literature and preaching.

29 thoughts on “Forgive as God Forgives

  1. I am reading a great book called, Un-Offendable by Brant Hansen. His writing style is so point on…no fluff. He talks about this issue of forgiveness and a few other issue. Very convicting but also encouraging.

  2. Forgiving others is sometimes very hard, but it is essential if you want to break out of the bondage that it’s brought you under. Forgiving others opens you up for the Lord to begin healing your soul (inner healing).

  3. I wonder if you can offer any help/hope to those of us who have great difficulty forgiving…I am tortured by my desire, but inability, to forgive. I keep taking it to the Lord…and am heartbroken that I fail in this pivotal principle of His. Thank you for your time, attention. God bless you and your family abundantly.

    1. Hello Ennle,

      I appreciate you taking the time to write what is in your heart regarding the struggle you are facing with forgiveness. I can tell that you are sincere in your words and that what you are experiencing is real. I faced a similar fight several years ago with one individual where I could not bring it in my heart to forgive this person. I felt the slights were too much for me to ignore and the vengeance I had in my heart would not pass.

      What eventually helped me, and I cannot say God will do the same as he had done for me because God may be working another miracle in your life in another way, was that I had to treat my enemy as I would myself; would I treat myself as an enemy? When I thought about it that way and acted upon it, things began to fall into place rapidly. I no longer was holding a grudge, but I genuinely wanted them to succeed. I did not want them to hurt any longer, and I wanted my heart more than anything to love them as much as I do myself. Of course, there was a lot of prayer, a lot of shed tears, a lot of bible study. I can tell you that it was not easy, but praying for them helps tremendously. It is quite a thing that happens when you pray for your enemy. Your heart melts for them and all you want is good to come upon them. But really, this is God’s doing as he softens your heart and working a miracle in your life.

      Anyway, this response was longer than I had anticipated. Just know that what you are going through is not uncommon and I will add you to my own prayers so that you can move past the hurt and enjoy God’s love in your heart more fully and richly than ever before.

      Jack

      1. Hi, Brother Jack. Thank you SO MUCH for your time and heart in responding to me. I appreciate very much what you said, as I was hoping for something “new”. At almost 67, I feel like I’ve heard all the standard answers, you know? But what you said, about putting myself in the place of those who’ve hurt me–and not wanting them to hurt as I do–Wow, this perspective really helped me a lot. So, I thank you for that, and for your prayers–and for affirming that my heart is sincere, as it truly is. Although I’d been a saved Christian since age 14, my journey has been fraught with frustration–BUT, during Holy Week of 2011 (age 59), I experienced an incredible, life-changing epiphany. It was as though the Holy Trinity showed up in my living room–and for the first time, I met the real Jesus. Suddenly I really “knew” what I’d read in the Bible–and my hunger to read God’s Word, and listen to good teaching became insatiable. I’m sure you can appreciate that, once you’ve had such an experience, all you want to do is please God, the Lord…and my spirit has been so grieved, knowing that although HE loves me unconditionally, this forgiveness issue was a problem. I now have hope for healing/deliverance in this area–as I change how I view the wounds and offenses of others. I can’t thank you enough–and be sure that I will keep you and your family in my prayers now too. It was summer of 2011 that I began blogging–and I thank God that He provided it as a way to connect with His family. Blessings to you–and thank you again! Ennle

  4. Thanks for this writing. In the same Matt 6 verse 15 says, “But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”.
    Matthew 6:15 KJV.
    If God doesn’t forgive us, there’s no spending eternity with him. So we need to forgive because God wants us to do so and because we love him, we obey him and because we want to live with him hereafter in eternity. God bless you.

    1. Taking it one step further: If we love him, we will obey him and we will know him for then he will know us. He wants that relationship with us, and that is why it is vitally important to do his will, as he would want us to, since that is how we get to know him, and he us. Blessings always to you also.

  5. Luke 23:34 Jesus on the Cross said, “Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing”.If Christ could forgive those who mocked and blasphemed against him.Who are we to bear grudges over little things?.

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